Relations:Facing problems?

Do you have problems with your relationship? Is there a malaise with your spouse or children? What about your colleagues? Are you clash with your best friends? We all have ups and downs with our relationship. If you want to improve your relationships, you can watch what you say, especially the way you say it. We do not always realize the TONE in which we turn to those who we would like to heart.

I was talking to my son last week made progress on a number of occasions and I found myself scolding him a few times. He asked "what is with you, what did I do to get away from me"? I just sat there and realized that he had done nothing. I was bored with my day and found myself not really be here with my conversation with him. After I hung up the phone, I realised it is so easy to impose our problems on others, without even realizing that we are doing it. At this point, I decided it was time to really look at the way I speak to others and make a change. I did not want my relationships with others suffer from my negligence.

How many times have you been on receipt of a pound or a clerk responsible husband or adolescent? We all know that feeling and it must be remembered when we talk to others.

Here are some things to consider and implement if you want to improve your relationships.

LISTEN actually to tell you the words throughout the day. Listen to your TONE. How often do you raise your voice, speak in a harsh or sarcastic way, or in any way offensive. Others might not say anything for you, but I assure you they felt your words and votes. After one too many times, she began to focus on those that you inflicted on your words.

Make a conscious choice to make a change on how you talk to others.

Put yourself in their place and see how they may be affected by your words.

BEFORE you speak, think about what you are going to say. Even if you need to take an extra breath to compose your thoughts, it is worth the effort. It may even slow down your approach to others.

PRESENTATION is to learn how to communicate effectively with others. How can you say something that will benefit the other person?

REMEMBER what this means for you the person.

If you stumble and forget and say something you know you should not, recognize, forgive and then apologize. It is unbelievable to see how a recognition and an apology will help.

Know that you can not change in a day or even a week. But with acknowledgment of every day what you are doing and make changes as they occur, it will quickly become accustomed to be aware of your words and the power they have over others.